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Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Motivation
At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
What experiement did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
I said at the last meeting, I would regret not being more confident, not being kinder and more attentive to other people, not being less self-conscious, and not being grateful. However, come to think of it, I realized that taking a certain attitudes such as being more confident is not easily achieved solely by my efforts, and therefore, is not what I would regret not doing. Here is my new list of would-regret-not-doing: (1) having trips to new and strange places; (2) meeting with various people and making more friends; (3) learning how to cook international foods; (4) loving my people without expecting anything from them; (5) observing and appreciating Mother Nature; (6) growing vegetables by my hands; (7) playing the violin at church for Christmas; and (8) dressing fashionably.
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
Fear only discourages me in pursuing my goal since it causes self-blame and ultimately self-hared. Whenever I encounter fear resulting from my over-anxieties about uncertainties of my future and relationship, I attempt to recall the moments, which I victoriously faced my fears and produced a better outcome. Bouncing off from the self in the past, I can build a stronger and wiser self in the present.
What experiment did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
I kept “Come from a place of curiosity” in my mind during the past two weeks. While meeting my students, it seems to work very well to me. I asked them many questions, whereby they could discover their own answers and potentials to solve similar problems in near future. I also made a new friend in the apartment building where I live, by showing my ceaseless curiosity about her. While answering each other’s questions, we could get to know better and consequently open our minds up
1. At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing? I hope it won't happen. But I will regret not knowing someone I would love to know, not learning something I would love to know. I will regret not being myself. But sometimes it is pretty contradictory. I try to avoid saying what I really want to say to avoid hurting others. But I also will regret not saying that.. What experiment did you try to battle your fears? Pretty simple. Speak up, in class, in a group of people or any kind of situation. What experiement did you create related to your Committed Way of Being? I think the most important experiment to me is to say what I really want to say. I think sometimes people are trying to be nice, but trying to be nice may lead to people's misconception and misunderstanding about you. It may make things more complicated.
I. At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing? I think if I start with the beginning of "at the end of my life" it could be too serious and I am also not able to see so far, so I'll say sth that I regret just now. I'm always regret that I dare not to speak up in class and after loosing the chance, I feel disappointed about myself, which is so sad. To be more specific, I really want to leave a good impression to my statistic teacher who is really good and also responsible with his job. Every time when I want to raise my hands, I found myself lost in struggling: 1. Is my English good enough to be understood by others? 2. Am I got the answer right? 3. Have I better prepared for the class? As a consequence, I went through the miserable moments and sat there still.
II. What experiment did you try to battle your fears? I did push myself to speak up for the last two week. For the first time, I spoke with a wake voice, so I was asked to repeat. At that time, I was so frightened, but I had to say it again. Then, I found actually no one paid a lot of attention to my personal background, they all focus on the answer itself. So that's not a big deal. No one cares where you come from as long as you are eager to learn the knowledge as they do in the class. As for the second experience, I spoke up to ask whether I could tear the formula sheet off, which helped a lot of students. So I gain much more courage to speak up, just give it a shot, anyway.
III. What experiment did you create related to your Committed Way of Being? My Committed Way of Being for the last time is be open and be on time and ready. I tried to play badminton every Monday evening to make myself healthier and happier, also swift my attention from study to something else. I'm open to learn something new. We have two fellow coach who are very good at it to teach us. I tried to be there on time, but i still failed for some times. Maybe I should try to be there five minutes earlier. I did a better job in being prepared for things going on. It helped me to do things more efficiently.
Hello, everyone. Hope you all have been having a very productive week. Mine has been very productive and I am very happy about it. It is a very very unfulfilling life to be able to help people but not doing so. If I get to the end of my life and I do not use all my talents and skills to help a lot of people, make a difference in the world, I will be so so so unfulfilled.
1) At the end of my life, I will definitely regret not challenging myself enough, or trying out different things; in other words, not having the courage to go far beyond my comfort zone.
2) I think that my biggest fear is not to be happy in the end of my life journey. I've always been ambitious and I've always wanted to be something more than what others thought I can or should be. Yet, sometimes I question my decisions, wondering if I made the right move or have gone the right way. However, after our meeting, I realized that nothing in life is "right." Life is all about trials and errors. As much as it sucks to mess up and fail, the important thing is to realize where you went wrong and try again and again. I guess I haven't performed a conventional experiment as such, but my experiment was to keep reminding myself of all of this. What I arrive to in the end is important, but what is more important, more fulfulling, more exciting is the journey to get there, wherever "there" is :)
3) My committed way of being this week was about "realizing what was dear and meaningful to me". Being half way across the world from home, it was quite challenging to maintain my childhood friendships and stay in touch with my "old" friends. So, I decided to put more effort into reaching out to my best friend back home, who I haven't talked to for so long. One day we just chatted online and then I called her, and we talked for two whole hours about a few things that were bothering her with her other friends. It seemed as if we never stopped talking to each other, and I was extremely pleased to know that she still trusts me with her secrets and troubles. I realize now that real friendships do not just fade away, no matter how near or far you are from each other :)
At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
-i think if I don't marry, and don't have children, I will regret to throw away my chance to be someone who can infinite love to somebody else than me. I want to be a mother of my children and a wife of my husband, just like my mom did it to me and to my daddy. As I grew up, I saw her happy moments as mom and wife and sad moments as mom and wife. But she said she would not regret any of those moments,, so I think I would be so mad if I don't try those amazing experiences.
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
I try not to fear darkness. Whenever, I am alone,, whenever I feel darkness, I cannot control myself from imagining the most scary things in the world. But this week , I tried to stay alone at least once in a week. Not in dark though. I will keep try it.!!!until it gets better
What experiement did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
my committed way of being of this week is being ready and being on time. I created experiment that I set alarm before my events in my life. Even single thing. So I cannot be late because of reminder I carry with me (IPOD) I think it works so far. But I have to be aware of it all the time though.
At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing? A very tricky and vague question...
Hypothetically speaking, I might be dwelling about the opportunities i have missed: which obviously revolves around my family members, friends and things that i would have love to do.
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
Something simple yet impossibly hard for me to achieve:- face the problem and come out with solutions; rather than avoiding it and live in denial.
What experiment did you create related to your Committed Way of Being? Be open to suggestions, accept criticism and value the people who are around me (mainly my best friend which i have neglected for quite a while).
huh, it is an interesting question, I don't think I will have something to regret by the end of my life. I thought I would have one, before I started learning piano, now I changed. I sanction presence, which is the moment right now, I really enjoy it. Although there is ups and downs in life, such as tons of paper to read, endless assignments, I am still thankful. There is always away that leads me out of trouble, e.g. joining the CC program, having family around me, being thankful. Oh, btw, recently, I was interviewed for a video clip, asking about "what is one thing that you are thankful for this year?" and my answer is: I am thankful for getting baptized, getting married, living with husband now, study is not as tough as last year. Everything turned better in 2010. At that moment, I suddenly realized, it was the "appreciation" attitude changed my perspective and feelings. When I change my lens to see the world, there is nothing troublesome.
At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
ReplyDeleteI said at the last meeting, I would regret not being more confident, not being kinder and more attentive to other people, not being less self-conscious, and not being grateful. However, come to think of it, I realized that taking a certain attitudes such as being more confident is not easily achieved solely by my efforts, and therefore, is not what I would regret not doing. Here is my new list of would-regret-not-doing: (1) having trips to new and strange places; (2) meeting with various people and making more friends; (3) learning how to cook international foods; (4) loving my people without expecting anything from them; (5) observing and appreciating Mother Nature; (6) growing vegetables by my hands; (7) playing the violin at church for Christmas; and (8) dressing fashionably.
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
Fear only discourages me in pursuing my goal since it causes self-blame and ultimately self-hared. Whenever I encounter fear resulting from my over-anxieties about uncertainties of my future and relationship, I attempt to recall the moments, which I victoriously faced my fears and produced a better outcome. Bouncing off from the self in the past, I can build a stronger and wiser self in the present.
What experiment did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
I kept “Come from a place of curiosity” in my mind during the past two weeks. While meeting my students, it seems to work very well to me. I asked them many questions, whereby they could discover their own answers and potentials to solve similar problems in near future. I also made a new friend in the apartment building where I live, by showing my ceaseless curiosity about her. While answering each other’s questions, we could get to know better and consequently open our minds up
1. At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
ReplyDeleteI hope it won't happen. But I will regret not knowing someone I would love to know, not learning something I would love to know. I will regret not being myself. But sometimes it is pretty contradictory. I try to avoid saying what I really want to say to avoid hurting others. But I also will regret not saying that..
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
Pretty simple. Speak up, in class, in a group of people or any kind of situation.
What experiement did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
I think the most important experiment to me is to say what I really want to say. I think sometimes people are trying to be nice, but trying to be nice may lead to people's misconception and misunderstanding about you. It may make things more complicated.
I. At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
ReplyDeleteI think if I start with the beginning of "at the end of my life" it could be too serious and I am also not able to see so far, so I'll say sth that I regret just now. I'm always regret that I dare not to speak up in class and after loosing the chance, I feel disappointed about myself, which is so sad. To be more specific, I really want to leave a good impression to my statistic teacher who is really good and also responsible with his job. Every time when I want to raise my hands, I found myself lost in struggling: 1. Is my English good enough to be understood by others? 2. Am I got the answer right? 3. Have I better prepared for the class?
As a consequence, I went through the miserable moments and sat there still.
II. What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
I did push myself to speak up for the last two week. For the first time, I spoke with a wake voice, so I was asked to repeat. At that time, I was so frightened, but I had to say it again. Then, I found actually no one paid a lot of attention to my personal background, they all focus on the answer itself. So that's not a big deal. No one cares where you come from as long as you are eager to learn the knowledge as they do in the class. As for the second experience, I spoke up to ask whether I could tear the formula sheet off, which helped a lot of students. So I gain much more courage to speak up, just give it a shot, anyway.
III. What experiment did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
My Committed Way of Being for the last time is be open and be on time and ready. I tried to play badminton every Monday evening to make myself healthier and happier, also swift my attention from study to something else. I'm open to learn something new. We have two fellow coach who are very good at it to teach us. I tried to be there on time, but i still failed for some times. Maybe I should try to be there five minutes earlier. I did a better job in being prepared for things going on. It helped me to do things more efficiently.
Hello, everyone.
ReplyDeleteHope you all have been having a very productive week. Mine has been very productive and I am very happy about it.
It is a very very unfulfilling life to be able to help people but not doing so. If I get to the end of my life and I do not use all my talents and skills to help a lot of people, make a difference in the world, I will be so so so unfulfilled.
1) At the end of my life, I will definitely regret not challenging myself enough, or trying out different things; in other words, not having the courage to go far beyond my comfort zone.
ReplyDelete2) I think that my biggest fear is not to be happy in the end of my life journey. I've always been ambitious and I've always wanted to be something more than what others thought I can or should be. Yet, sometimes I question my decisions, wondering if I made the right move or have gone the right way. However, after our meeting, I realized that nothing in life is "right." Life is all about trials and errors. As much as it sucks to mess up and fail, the important thing is to realize where you went wrong and try again and again. I guess I haven't performed a conventional experiment as such, but my experiment was to keep reminding myself of all of this. What I arrive to in the end is important, but what is more important, more fulfulling, more exciting is the journey to get there, wherever "there" is :)
3) My committed way of being this week was about "realizing what was dear and meaningful to me". Being half way across the world from home, it was quite challenging to maintain my childhood friendships and stay in touch with my "old" friends. So, I decided to put more effort into reaching out to my best friend back home, who I haven't talked to for so long. One day we just chatted online and then I called her, and we talked for two whole hours about a few things that were bothering her with her other friends. It seemed as if we never stopped talking to each other, and I was extremely pleased to know that she still trusts me with her secrets and troubles. I realize now that real friendships do not just fade away, no matter how near or far you are from each other :)
At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
ReplyDelete-i think if I don't marry, and don't have children, I will regret to throw away my chance to be someone who can infinite love to somebody else than me. I want to be a mother of my children and a wife of my husband, just like my mom did it to me and to my daddy.
As I grew up, I saw her happy moments as mom and wife and sad moments as mom and wife.
But she said she would not regret any of those moments,, so I think I would be so mad if I don't try those amazing experiences.
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
I try not to fear darkness. Whenever, I am alone,, whenever I feel darkness, I cannot control myself from imagining the most scary things in the world. But this week , I tried to stay alone at least once in a week. Not in dark though.
I will keep try it.!!!until it gets better
What experiement did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
my committed way of being of this week is being ready and being on time.
I created experiment that I set alarm before my events in my life. Even single thing. So I cannot be late because of reminder I carry with me (IPOD)
I think it works so far. But I have to be aware of it all the time though.
At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing?
ReplyDeleteA very tricky and vague question...
Hypothetically speaking, I might be dwelling about the opportunities i have missed: which obviously revolves around my family members, friends and things that i would have love to do.
What experiment did you try to battle your fears?
Something simple yet impossibly hard for me to achieve:- face the problem and come out with solutions; rather than avoiding it and live in denial.
What experiment did you create related to your Committed Way of Being?
Be open to suggestions, accept criticism and value the people who are around me (mainly my best friend which i have neglected for quite a while).
huh, it is an interesting question, I don't think I will have something to regret by the end of my life. I thought I would have one, before I started learning piano, now I changed. I sanction presence, which is the moment right now, I really enjoy it. Although there is ups and downs in life, such as tons of paper to read, endless assignments, I am still thankful. There is always away that leads me out of trouble, e.g. joining the CC program, having family around me, being thankful. Oh, btw, recently, I was interviewed for a video clip, asking about "what is one thing that you are thankful for this year?" and my answer is: I am thankful for getting baptized, getting married, living with husband now, study is not as tough as last year. Everything turned better in 2010. At that moment, I suddenly realized, it was the "appreciation" attitude changed my perspective and feelings. When I change my lens to see the world, there is nothing troublesome.
ReplyDelete